please don’t Squeeze.

When I started this blog I had no idea how long I’d keep it going (which is not a hint – I have no desire to get rid of it!), much less that I’d someday blog about my engagement, wedding and pregnancy. But here we are, and yes, apparently I’ve become that blogger. I don’t mind a bit though, because this has always been my little corner of the blogosphere to write what I please, share what I’m learning and whether or not you keep reading is up to you :)

Keep in mind that every woman and every pregnancy is different. What I write about throughout this pregnancy isn’t the end all be all, it is just little ol’ me writing down what I’m living up. All of this being said… Continue reading

not a bad Thing.

The Bright Maidens topic of the month (you’d think as a Bright Maiden I’d be better about participating each month, but…I’m not) is: “Write about a non-Christian song, movie, or book that inspired you spiritually or revealed something about God to you!”

Normally something like this would be right up my alley. I’ve featured countless songs on the blog before – Christian and non-Christian, and yet when it came time to sit down and write I simply couldn’t pick a song. There were a lot of maybes but nothing jumped out, nothing said, “Pick me!” until I came across one of my more recent jams and listened to it with a different ear. Continue reading

what marriage is teaching Me. {a new link up}

Last week’s post about what marriage is teaching me was such a hit and got some really great feedback that I’ve decided to take the dive and make it a monthly link-up!

Why monthly?

Because weekly link-ups that require thought are…hard. Maybe its just my pregnancy brain talking, but sitting down to write something and write it well seems to take more effort these days. A monthly link-up is also not a reflection on how much marriage is teaching me. Believe me, I could write a blog post nearly daily about what marriage is teaching me, but like I said, sleep seems to be taking over my nights so I write less and sleep more. Such is life.

When do we start?

Let’s have the first link up on August 28th. That’s two weeks folks! And it is the feast day of St. Augustine, who is basically one of my all time favorite saints. Write your posts and link them up here (likely in the comments because WordPress.com isn’t too chummy with most link-up gadgets…)!  Continue reading

the forgotten Sin.

Maybe it isn’t the forgotten sin, but maybe it is. For me it is the sin I don’t always realize I’ve fallen into until after the fact. I’d be willing to be that most of us fall into it without realizing we’ve done so because, like me, our definition of it is so limited.

Gossip.

gossipUp until a few months ago (thanks to my awesome spiritual director) my definition of gossip was limited to something along the lines of: talking smack about people behind their backs in a knowingly malicious way with the intent of slandering them because they were/are irritating. Intent, as with any moral decision, matters, but so do actions. My spiritual director challenged me to broaden my understanding and definition of gossip. In reality, the definition of gossip isn’t dependent on my conscious or unconscious intent. Gossip occurs anytime you or I speak, write or otherwise communicate something negative about person A to anyone other than person A.  Continue reading

the case for all the Friends.

As a gal who just ‘climbed the ranks’ so to speak, I’ve been reflecting a lot on the importance of having friends at every stage of life. I’m not really talking about young friends and old friends, I’m talking about single friends, engaged friends and married friends, because in the last few months I’ve realized how grateful I am for friends of all kinds.

Single Friends

When you are single you need friends who are single to give you hope, lift you up, and daydream about the future with. You need single friends who know what it is like to be single, to struggle with your vocation, to long for marriage, you need friends who know and understand that same ache.  Continue reading

what marriage is teaching Me.

I know, I know. Who is this newly-wed lady to be talking about what marriage is teaching her? I know that I haven’t logged as many ‘married’ hours as others, but that doesn’t mean that I can’t see that marriage is already teaching me a thing or two. Who knows, this may even turn into a series or a link-up or something ;-)

One of the first things I noticed that marriage was (and is) teaching me is that often times it isn’t what you say but how you say it. I can tell my husband that I’m sorry and mean it or I can tell him that I’m sorry in frustration and annoyance. So often I’ve found that the way we communicate is just as important, if not more important, than what we are saying. Continue reading