a lot like Jesus.

Sometimes the devil sounds a lot like Jesus, telling me I’m not enough…

I adore Ben Rector’s music, but the first time I heard this line I almost turned the song off. How could the devil sound like Jesus? That’s the trick though, isn’t it? The devil puts just enough truth in his pile of lies that his words are easy to fall for. Think of Eve in the Garden of Eden. The serpent tells her, “Did God really say, ‘You shall not eat from any of the trees in the garden’?”” (Genesis 3:1, emphasis mine) No, God did not tell Eve that she couldn’t eat from any of the trees. In fact, God didn’t tell Eve anything about the trees – that info was relayed to her through Adam. The serpent makes it seem like he is taking the words of God and giving them to Eve, but that isn’t the case. So too in our day the devil can sound a lot like Jesus, but that begs the question, does Jesus ever tell us that we aren’t enough? Continue reading

a lot like Worry.

a lot like worryVery, very rarely (perhaps never) have I split one song up into more than one post. But “If You Can Hear Me” by Ben Rector is too good of a song to only devote one post to. Since last week I had a theme of not losing your voice and listening to the right voices, it made sense to follow that up with some reflections on actually being heard. If you’ve never heard of Ben Rector, do your ears and heart a favor and go check him out.

“If You Can Hear Me” is one of those songs that I can see people arguing about. Over the years people have wondered which of Ben’s songs were religious, but if you really listen to this one, there is no denying it’s religious tone. Ben starts off the song singing,

Sometimes the devil sounds a lot like worry
Treading a well-worn path into my soul
And it don’t sound evil, oh, but my head’s burning…

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submission does not mean losing your Voice.

Wives should be subordinate to their husbands as to the Lord.
-Ephesians 5:22

I used to think that being submissive or subordinate meant that you didn’t have a say in anything, that, in essence, you lost your voice. No wonder, then, that Ephesians 5 gets such a bad reputation and is so highly quoted out of context. This notion of submission meaning your voice gets lost or silenced has become so prevalent in the world today.

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listening to the right Voice.

{I’m not totally back on the blogging front yet. These posts are ones that I wrote before the wedding. But rest assured and mark your calendars for July 28th when I’ll be back with freshly written, post-married-life blogs!}

Raise your hand if you’ve ever heard or thought one of the following:

I’m not enough.
I’m not pretty.
I’m not smart enough, tall enough, funny enough, sexy enough.
I’m a bad friend.
I’m too emotional.
I have too much baggage.
I’ll never find love.
I’m not worthy.

Chances are that about 99.9% of you either have your hand raised or are looking around to see if anyone would notice you reading that list and simultaneously raising your hand. That’s okay, I’m writing this with one hand raised too. Continue reading

until death do us Part.

The incomparable Julie Baldwin is here to wrap up the wedding vow mini-series. How do we cope with the ‘until death do us part’ line? What does that mean in our day-to-day married lives?

until death do us part“Marriage: To Death, Infinity and Beyond”

The first time Will, my now-husband, and I talked about him specifically dying, I felt the tears well up fast. His grandfather had died a few months earlier, and I had been at Will’s parents’ house for the weekend. I walked over to his grandfather’s house with him to wait for the body to be examined and taken away. We had talked about board games and tattoo wedding rings.
Now, he was on his family medicine rotation and Will’s possible future vegetable/ memory loss status was on the table.
“If I forget who you are,” he said, “just hire a nice nurse to take care of me and go on living your life.”
I cried.

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love and honor each Other.

Jen considers what it means to love and honor each other in a marriage. Similar to the question of intent, but repeated for emphasis in the vows, couples are invited to continually love and honor each other all the days of their lives. 

Jon and Jen on their wedding dayWhen Amanda asked for volunteers to write guest posts based on portions of the standard Catholic wedding vows, I thought that I’d just take whichever one nobody had taken yet and that (at the time) happened to be “love and honor”. I’ve been married for 12 years so this should be an easy subject, right?


It happens to be the part of my wedding vows that I’m the worst at following. I’ve got the “for richer or poorer” thing down perfectly, the “in sickness or in health” part is a cake walk, and “for better or for worse” is pretty standard stuff for us. Not to mention, what does “to love and honor” mean in the context of those vows anyway???

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