what marriage is teaching Me {vol. 2}

what marriage is teaching me link upEek! A new link up! I’m beyond excited to host and even more excited to read about what marriage is teaching others! The easiest way to link-up is to put the link to your individual post in a comment at the end of this post. Then hop around and see what others are learning and writing about! I’ll host this link up on the last Thursday of every month (like a monthly Thanksgiving – literally!), so be sure to come back and keep writing – marriage is always teaching new lessons!

What is marriage teaching me lately? Mostly it is teaching me about patience. I’ve had a life long struggle with being patient. Lines at the grocery store, lines for confession (the irony!), traffic, drivers who don’t know how to drive in the mountains, waiting for love/marriage to enter my life, you name it, I’ve probably been impatient about it. Marriage is no different.

There are times in marriage that I’m anything but patient with Anthony. I come home and I wonder why there are still dishes in the sink or why the trash smells so wretched (he has an awful/non-existent sense of smell and I’m pregnant, you do the math). It isn’t that he’s sitting around being lazy either. Often times I miss what he has done, like hang up art work, make the bed, etc. The reality is that marriage is pushing me to be more patient, to not jump immediately on the band wagon of nagging, but to communicate more effectively when there’s something going on I don’t like or disagree with.

In a similar way, marriage is pushing me to be more patient with Anthony. Being single I got used to hiding from the world when I had a bad day, or from others when they had a bad day. Not so in marriage. If I come home and he’s had a bad day, its my calling – and part of my vocation – to be patient and loving with him, even if I feel like I’m getting the short end of the stick. The easy (and for me, normal) response is to snap back, to treat others – including my husband – the way I’m being treated. Instead, I’m learning to be patient with him, to love him, to meet him where he’s at, give him space if he needs it, or just listen. I’m learning to take a breath and not react so quickly, but to be patient and loving anyway. I have no doubt that such a practice is also influencing every area of my life – including my soon-to-be motherhood. 🙂

So what is marriage teaching YOU? Link up in the comments – I can’t wait to read them!


  1. Amanda @ worthy of Agape on September 3, 2014 at 7:22 pm

    Thanks for participating Hillary, can’t wait to read it 🙂

  2. Amanda @ worthy of Agape on September 1, 2014 at 6:02 pm

    I understand that – my husband reads some of my posts and gets something totally different out of them or thinks my intent was different than it was. Yay communication!

  3. Hillary on September 1, 2014 at 10:19 am

    I’m a little late here since I was traveling last week, but here’s my two cents. Thanks for hosting, Amanda! http://www.hillandted.com/2014/08/what-marriage-is-teaching-me.html

  4. Michaela W on August 30, 2014 at 10:05 pm

    I learned one more thing when publishing this: my husband doesn’t have the same take-away as me. He was kind of moody about one of my lessons (marriage making you holy) thinking it meant I wasn’t telling him something was bothering me, and I thought it was my favorite one that said it was beyond just “feeling happy”… oh, husbands. If it really does read like he says it does then I guess I need to reword it.


  5. […] school work to do it feels like Friday, so I’m writing about marriage and linking up with Amanda and Jen! […]

  6. Amanda @ worthy of Agape on August 28, 2014 at 6:41 pm

    Feel proud of yourself! Can’t wait to read it!!

  7. Amanda @ worthy of Agape on August 28, 2014 at 6:40 pm


  8. Amanda @ worthy of Agape on August 28, 2014 at 6:39 pm

    Thanks! I’m due with our first in March and I have no doubt that will stretch my patience even more!

  9. Amanda @ worthy of Agape on August 28, 2014 at 6:36 pm

    Same here – three months on Sunday! Can’t wait to read your post!

  10. Theresa Breslin on August 28, 2014 at 1:26 pm

    I DID IT!! I actually wrote something. (Allow me a few minutes to feel REALLY proud of myself.) http://thebrezblog.blogspot.com/2014/08/lessons-in-marriage.html

  11. Jen K-M on August 28, 2014 at 10:58 am

  12. annaemeyer on August 28, 2014 at 8:55 am

    Here is a blog I posted this morning! I am so new into marriage, but already learning a lot!

    Wonderful blog, yourself!
    🙂 Anna

  13. marilynrodrigues on August 28, 2014 at 12:10 am

    Great reflection Amanda. Just when I thought I’d learnt patience (with my husband) I had my first child and then four more pretty quickly after that and I often felt I had absolutely no patience! Spending that year and a bit alone with my husband was just training for the real thing, but it was good training nonetheless.


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