Just Don’t Say It

just don’t say it: male readers to female Bloggers.

September 11, 2013

There seems to be an influx of gentlemen reading the blog lately, and while I welcome that, some of their comments and e-mails (both here and on other sites I write for) are…frustrating. As with most posts in the “Just Don’t Say It” series, I fully believe they mean well, but the comments just don’t…


just don’t say it: heard it Before.

September 4, 2013

There is a tendency in relationships to write people off when they say something that we’ve heard before. We do it in all sorts of relationships, not just the romantic ones (though this seems to be especially true in romantic relationships). We simply say that we’ve heard it before and it wasn’t true then, so…


just don’t say it: Teachers.

August 28, 2013

Seeing that it is “Back to School” time, when my friend Jenn pitched the idea for this post to me, I jumped on it! Enjoy a bit of comedic relief from her in this season of back to school craziness! Just a few of the wonderful things said to teachers that drive us nuts! Are you…


just don’t say it: chewed gum, spit cups, and duct Tape.

August 21, 2013

I know, I’ve written about this topic before, but it bears repeating, especially when I constantly see how damaging these ideas are to women, young and old. You are not the chewed up gum that is stuck to the sidewalk and trampled on. You are not the spit water in the cup that everyone has…


just don’t say it: religious Vocations (part two).

August 14, 2013

It is time for another wonderful guest post in the “Just Don’t Say It” series! If you’ll remember, one of my best friends wrote a post about the things you should avoid saying to people who are discerning religious vocations. As she continues her journey towards sisterhood (and awesomeness, as I like to say!), Katie…


just don’t say it: about Mass.

August 7, 2013

In my time as a youth minister, and now as a Director of Faith Formation, I hear the following phrases more often than words can say: Mass is so boring. I don’t get anything out of Mass. I could sit here and tell you how totally wrong you are…but I’ve said those exact same phrases too.…


just don’t say it: on the Bachelorette.

July 31, 2013

Love it or hate it, The Bachelorette is my guilty pleasure. Truth be known, I much prefer The Bachelorette to The Bachelor because it makes more sense for me to have 25 men wooing a woman, rather than to have 25 woman cat fighting over one man. Yikes. That being said, I’m putting on my more comedic/sarcastic side with…


just don’t say it: long distance Relationships.

July 24, 2013

Sometimes writing these posts actually irks me a lot. Let’s be honest, people can say some pretty awful things. However, those awful things are actually the motivation for this entire series – what are the awful things we say and how can we be more charitable to others? Today’s installment in the “just don’t say…


just don’t say it: about your Past.

July 17, 2013

Your past does not define your future. It took me a while to figure out that just because I’m imperfect (read: human) doesn’t mean that I’m bound to be a giant screw-up for the rest of my life. I know, that sounds harsh, but it is true. We’ve all got scars from the past, some…


just don’t say it: to your Girlfriend.

July 3, 2013

Last week I wrote about the things that guys should avoid saying to the single ladies in their lives. This week I tackle the things that guys should avoid saying to their girlfriends. These are things to avoid saying in order to help them guard their hearts…and yours {and how to stay out of the…


just don’t say it: guys and Singlehood.

June 26, 2013

So far the “just don’t say it” series has been gender neutral, or aimed at the gals. This week and next week I’m focusing on the gentleman (and yes, I do have male readers!). I’ve received a number of questions about the things that guys should avoid saying to single girls, things they say that…


just don’t say it: let’s be Friends!

June 19, 2013

When I first wrote about things not to say when you are breaking up, the first thing I mentioned was don’t say you’ll be friends. 9.99999 times out of 10, the “let’s be friends” sentiment sounds nice but it isn’t true. So then why do we say, and why can’t we be friends? Why We…



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