sucked In. 4 comments

I’ll admit what I’m sure I’ve already admitted here before: The Bachelorette is my guilty pleasure. This season I tweeted about it and one of my followers responded to one of my Bachelorette tweets by simply saying, “And I held you in such high regard.” Sure, it is hard to guess his tone in a tweet, but his words struck at my heart. So I’ve fallen somehow because I watch The Bachelorette? Gee, thanks.

sucked InBut that tweet got me thinking…I get so sucked into The Bachelorette, but why? Why do shows like The Bachelor and The Bachelorette, and any show about finding love, dramatic though they may be, fair so well, week after week? Because we find comfort in them. 

Maybe that sounds crazy. Does watching The Bachelorette really comfort me? Actually, it does, and I’m willing to bet that’s exactly why millions of other viewers tune in week after week.

Still Searching

I’m not married yet and there is comfort in knowing that I’m not alone in the search for love and marriage. We tune in because sometimes this crazy search and wait for love is exhausting. Sometimes it seems hopeless. Sometimes it seems like the most lonely and desperate thing in the world. We tune into shows like The Bachelorette and are reminded that we aren’t alone, and in fact, we are doing just fine.


During the seasons I’ve watched of the show when I am dating someone, it makes me really grateful for them. Heck, watching the show makes me grateful that my dating life isn’t as crazy and dramatic as what is shown on TV. Do I sometimes wish I could just jet off to Fiji for a dream date? Of course, but that doesn’t mean I’m not grateful for what I have. I’m grateful that I can choose to date one lad at a time, not 25. I’m grateful that I don’t have cameras in my face on every date I go on. I’m grateful that I don’t have a house full of guys creating more drama than necessary in the quest for my heart. Watching The Bachelorette gives me perspective and makes me grateful, and it makes me thank God for the blessings He does grant me.

Love Stories

There are very few people I know who don’t love and appreciate a good love story. Our quest for love is fraught with broken hearts, empty pints of ice cream, tears, joys, laughter and so much more. I might be a sap, but I can easily get caught up in a love story and the search for lasting happiness. Don’t we all?

…so, am I less of a person because I watch shows like this? I think not. I think I’m just another person searching for happiness, and finding camaraderie in those searching for the same thing I am.

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4 thoughts on “sucked In.

  • Amy

    Don’t worry about what one person says on Twitter. We ALL have our “guilty pleasures”! When I saw that you had posted a blog about “The Bachelorette”, I instantly thought “Wow, she’s so down to earth and not so ‘holier-than-thou’ Ilike so many other Catholic blogs I read!” I REALLY appreciated it. And I’m sure that most people feel the same way. We all love you Amanda, for real. I literally check your site every day and some of your words are printed out and taped to my refrigerator! 🙂 You’re awesome!

    • Amanda @ worthy of Agape

      Amy, you are SO kind! Thank you so much for your sweet words! We definitely all have our guilty pleasures, those things that get us out of our heads and help us to realize that there is more to our lives than what goes on in our own world!

      YOU are awesome! 🙂 Thanks again for the words of encouragement!

  • Anjie Anjelina

    Whether it’s the Bachelorette or a Nicholas Sparks novel, getting “sucked in” isn’t a bad thing. There is nothing wrong with living in the world, but not being of this world. What I appreciate about your blog posts is your down-to-earth way you present your everyday triumphs and challenges of a practicing Catholic. Thanks for sharing with all of us a glimpse into your thoughts, likes and dislikes. 🙂

    • Amanda @ worthy of Agape

      YES to Nicholas Sparks – I definitely get sucked into almost all of his books! I sometimes think that getting “sucked in” to something else is a good thing, it gives up something to hope for beyond what we see and experience in this life!

      Thank you for your kind words, you are so sweet! 😀